I thought long and hard before responding to my son. The words had been forming in my mind since that moment at the birthday party, when I realized how little they valued my presence in their lives. Those twelve hours on the bus had been a time of reflection, and I had decided that my own self-worth could no longer be diminished by their choices.
“Find your own way,” I said, the words leaving my lips with a weight I hadn’t expected.
There was silence on the other end of the line. I could almost hear his mind racing, trying to grasp onto the meaning of what I had just said. It wasn’t just about the money. It wasn’t about withholding support out of spite. It was a boundary, a line I needed to draw for my own sanity and dignity. My son had relied on me for far too long, leaning on the assumption that I’d always be there to catch him whenever he fell. But perhaps it was time for him to learn to stand on his own, to face the consequences of his choices.
“Mom, please,” he began, but I stopped him.
“You pushed me away,” I said, my voice steady. “I’ve always been there when you needed me, but you have to understand—I can’t always be your safety net. I love you, but it’s time for you to find your own way.”
His voice was a mix of desperation and disbelief. “But you’ve always been there.”
“I know,” I replied, softly but firmly. “And that’s the problem. Sometimes, love means letting go. I need you to understand this, for your sake and mine.”
We said our goodbyes, and I hung up the phone, feeling a strange mix of sadness and relief. I wasn’t sure what the future held for my son, but I hoped that this moment would be a turning point, a lesson he needed to learn. As I stood in the quiet of my kitchen, I realized that this decision, difficult as it was, was necessary for both of us. It was time for him to step up, to take responsibility for his own life and his own family.